The mind game… is it the same with an illusion? Previously I have written about illusion. Today I had a lunch with my childhood best friend. We were discussing about her marriage plan (in September this year). My question to her was what made her decide to marry this guy after all.
She told me, that previously she has a relationship with other type of guy which is different with this one she’s going to marry. The previous guy was so attractive, and she really liked him, however she knew that he didn’t treat her right… or maybe in the proper way. And for years though she knew it, she kept on trying to survive the relationship with him… and yes consciously she was aware that the guy is a player, cannot be trusted, a coward in a certain way… such as he was a player, but he also want people think of him as a very good guy… so he’s trying to manage his reputation, and at the same time hurting my friend. … well it’s such quite a long story… but by the end my friend has the courage to leave him, and move on with her life.
After that she met another guy, who is very kind, and fights for her. She just realized that there’s another type of guy, which is trustable, concern with her feeling, and she can feel secure and be who she is. So she told me, that consciously she made her decision to marry him because she realize that this guy can be a real life partner in marriage till the ever after.
She told me, that when she was with the previous guy, she knew exactly what she has to do, but she felt trapped with the mind game. Like… she thought of him like the love of her life, someone that can make her Cinderella dream come true… after all she realized that it was only an illusion… it’s just like a game… so we continue discussion about the mind game.
Sometimes we’re so trapped with things or people we see physically… we want to have it… desperately we want to have it, and we become obsessed and idiot at the same time. We allowed ourselves to be trapped, disrespected, humiliated, and insulted in a way. And we both agree that it’s actually only a game in our mind that traps us to the situation. Once we’re in the situation like that, it’s difficult to break the bondage.
The only way to win the situation, and have a happy life, is to have control in our mind… to have control over our illusion… to be able to admit to ourselves that if something or someone is not good for us… then we have to accept it ourselves, break the bondage and move on.
Now she’s telling me, that marriage is not like what she’s thinking about… it’s not like her Cinderella dream, but she is excited about the marriage, though at the same time she feels that she has done a right decision, and she’s not under an influence of an illusion when she made it.
The mind game is a very dangerous thing. We often made a mistake or even become indecisive about a situation, because of the mind game… the illusion over our brain and feeling. The illusion sometimes took us to waste our times for nothing, and we end up regretting on how long we have waste it. But regret will not turn back the time.
It opens up my mind, that the mind game… or the illusion is the thing that I have to fight all the time. Learn to control the mind, and make a decision after a thought instead of a desire.
Maybe this is what the bible said, about the fight between the flesh of desire and the spirit. This is the fight we have to deal every day in every aspect of our lives.
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. - Galatians 5: 16 - 18.
Posted: July 15th, 2008 under Sharing.
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